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Posted by Sasquatch (631 days ago)

LOL, St Kilda Beach you are so on the money with the kill too early thing.

This will be different because im in GZ not HongKong and this goes for westernized, more than western women of course.

Basically, I have no problem (blond hair, blue eyes) catching the local chinese girls' eye (im not so vain as that sounds but still in any room full of Chinese girls more than a couple dig that and/or the arm hair thing LOL "you hairy like animal... but you perfect") and then smiling at her and getting my long held gaze - smile back thing, then walking up and asking her "ni jao shama mintzu? (of course Im in mainland China, you might need to ask some of the nice girls here how to open in Hong Kong but whatever language you use "whats your name" always seems to work for me. I know you are looking for english speaking girls but if she is westernized chinese, whatever that means, she will still be impressed that you are polite enough and intersted enough to go half way, she wasnt born speaking english she prolly busted her a$$ learning it. When I lived in Miami I hated when people came up to me and the first words out of their mouth were spanish. Do I look spanish, hello- blond, blue eyed, sun burned gringo here. So I dont do that to other people in their own country.

If she replies in Mandarin or Cantonese or whatever, you can go right into "timbudong" (I dont know WTF you are saying)Again find out how to say it in Cantonese. The girls aways laugh when you say that and repeat it back to you for some reason too which is good, any time you make them smile without actually laughing at your social ineptitude you are scoring points.

After that just try speaking english to her. I find more girls than I expect here, probably almost all of them in HK do speak at least some english or at least are willing to try a lot harder once I try to come at them from a direction that is more respectful of her own background and usually unexpected. They like to size you up before you open your mouth, if the first thing that comes out when you do is completly unexpected then she might find that intrigueing and want to know what else you have to say. It makes you mysterious and interesting, LOL. After that just get her to talk about her self and make sure even if its boring that you make her feel good about what she thinks is important about herself.

This all sounds very logical and emotionally removed like a formula but I dont see it that way. If I wasnt genuinely interested in a girl I wouldnt go to the trouble.

Important rule--> DO NOT BRING ANY CHINESE COWORKERS, LOL they are very bad wingmen and will almost immediatly start trying to "help" you by pressuring this nice girl to head for your apartment, right now, tonight. and next thing you know this nice available and formerly interested girl has labeled you a player and you're done.

I keep telling them, guys, this is like a game you play. strategy, subtlty. Even if all you do want is to get her into bed and you come straight out and say it, in front of others no less, then its like youre saying out loud, "Youre a big slut right?" Theres no way she can say yes to that. On the other hand once you smile and get her to, walk up to her and start convo, if she wants to go home w you she will let you know in her own way. If you get her number and text her a short "ni hao, I had fun last night" the next day, she will be all over that and usually call you back right away. Just do like the girls say and pony up, put your ego on the line and talk to her. My Chinese coworker said about a really cute girl I was going to ask out... "if you ask her out and she says no, maybe it will be very bad." Dude, if you dont even ask her youre done before you ever had a chance.

Meeting actual western girls? LOL Are there any in Panyu? I see them from a distance in GZ when I get in there once in a while but mainly I only see Chinese Nationals down here an hour or so South of the city. This doesnt really bother me though because I am working hard to learn Mandarin and there are scores of very beautiful Chinese girls here and they ALL wear leather boots LOL which I think is way sexy on a woman with the right slender build to pull off a calf high boot. No I dont have a foot fetish LOL but I AM a shoe designer so cut me some slack on that.

If you cant find enough western girls then develop a taste for multicultural fare. People are people, at least in Hong Kong you are less likely to need hard core language skills to communicate with locals.

Sorry for running on.

(I am based in Guangzhou)